Coffee Talk

If we were having coffee I’d love to chat about…

The courtesy wave. Is that not a thing anymore? Is it dying?! When someone allows you to jump in front of them on the road or cross the street as a pedestrian you should say THANK YOU! And it’s so simple — just a smile and a wave. It seriously makes me SO ragey when someone doesn’t acknowledge the kind gesture. In fact, I wait until I am fully in front of the kind car before I wave just to make sure they see me say thank you! Can we please bring the courtesy wave back!? #2017courtesywavemovement

Brain Fog. I had a conversation with one of my girlfriends last week about how mushy my brain has become. I swear I can’t remember anything. In the past week alone I’ve told Matt the same story twice in one day, I’ve left swim clothes on the counter for water play day at daycare, I’ve put a bag of chips in the refrigerator while cleaning the kitchen and the most embarrassing of all…I left my purse on the counter at Ulta over the weekend and didn’t realize it until I got home. I was trying to keep track of both kids, pick out mascara and locate my coupon on my phone and somehow forgot my purse…but managed to walk out with both kids, my wallet, my keys and my mascara. What is wrong with me? I am totally losing it. Anyway, a blogger I follow recently wrote a bunch of tips to conquer brain fog. If you’re struggling with this too, check it out.

Are you an under-buyer or an over-buyer? I am a terrible under-buyer, specifically for slow moving products like hand soap, deoderant, detergents, etc. For example, when we run out of toothpaste I normally don’t have a back-up on hand. So for a day or so I scramble and end up using nasty toddler training toothpaste until I can get to Target. And you know what I do at Target? I buy ONE tube. Why? Why don’t I just buy the 3 pack? Well, I hate storing stuff (with the exception of paper products, kid medicines, wine + food — always fully stocked on all that!) and my OCD heart really despises clutter, even if it’s all necessary. And when I do over-buy, I usually forget I have a stock. For example, I have NINE shampoos under my bathroom sink. NINE! And when I run out of shampoo I always forget about my stash and grab a new one from Target. Anyway, maybe it was the lack of storage in our old house that led me down this path, but I’m trying to get better about buying products in bulk on sale instead of making urgent Amazon Prime purchases! Maybe I’ll ask for a Costco membership for my birthday…

Now tell me what’s new with you! And would you like a bottle of shampoo?

You can find previous coffee talk sessions here!




  1. Jessica
    July 20, 2017 / 9:48 am

    I feel the brain fog- big time! My husband somehow has a memory like a steel trap and is always reminding me of things that I told him of which I have no recollection. Another (embarrassing) way this manifests is using a the wrong word in a conversation… Like saying sediment when I meant to say sentiment.

  2. Cara Griffin
    July 20, 2017 / 10:15 am

    I appreciate this SO much… because you make me feel like I'm not crazy! The "mom brain" thing is the real deal. I've started doing the Amazon subscribe & save which really helps. Let's definitely bring the courtesy wave back! 🙂

  3. Lizzie Simantz
    July 20, 2017 / 11:15 am

    I had to giggle because I'm so an under-buyer of the same things!! My kids have to tell me that we have no more toilet paper and toothpaste all the time!

  4. Zelle B.
    July 20, 2017 / 11:29 am

    Haha loving this! I am alllll about the courtesy wave and hate it when people don't acknowledge it (or don't do it at all!) And I'm the same way about the back-ups. I have a million bottles of shampoo but no extra toothpaste.Zelle | Southern Style

  5. Rachel Noyes
    July 20, 2017 / 11:44 am

    I am an over buyer. I think I have a fear of running out of something. We always have back up paper products in mass quantities and easily 500 diapers and 10,000 wipes in my daughters closet. When I see a good deal I just stock up. I love the target gift card deals too! Buy 3 mouthwashes get a $5 GC… no problem! We have plenty of storage space.

  6. Christi
    July 20, 2017 / 11:56 am

    I have Lupus and part of that is brain fog way too often. My husband laughs sometimes because I'll tell him things 67 times without realizing it. I make notes for myself. I lost my keys this week at the grocery buying one thing! Frustrating. I'm a total overbuyer. I fear running out of toilet paper! I keep extra hand soap under each sink. Each kid likes a different toothpaste so I stock up when it's on sale and somehow we won't discuss how much dental floss I have. need dental floss? I usually don't have shampoo on hand because my girls go through it like water! I try to keep a list of what I have on hand. We won't discuss the amount of extra schoolsupplies I keep in hand but if I ever get too much of anything I donate it to our local food pantry or program at our high school. So sometimes I overbuy just to share!

  7. Courtney Montello
    July 20, 2017 / 12:42 pm

    totally agree about the courtesy wave!!! I lived in CA for a couple years (originally from Ohio) and felt like NO one did it there… so rude!

  8. Colleen
    July 20, 2017 / 1:51 pm

    Hahaha we moved back to the Midwest a few years ago and the courtesy wave is alive and well here, much to my husband's joy because for some reason, it was totally dead in the South. So odd!I'm very much an overbuyer; I think I have four boxes of tampons in the linen closet. But I had coupons!

  9. Lauren Honeycutt
    July 20, 2017 / 1:57 pm

    Ugh what the heck?! Why aren't people doing the courtesy wave??? Have some dang manners, drivers!

  10. Elizabeth [Chasin' Mason]
    July 20, 2017 / 2:12 pm

    The courtesy wave!!! THANK YOU! I always always always thank someone for stopping for me as a pedestrian or if they let me turn in to traffic or even if they notice I need to merge on to the freeway and they slow down to let me in. Almost nobody does these days! Or if you hold the door for someone? Goodness it's so easy to say thank you or wave, it makes me so sad (and mad) that our culture seems so entitled that they can't even say thank you anymore.

  11. Traci
    July 20, 2017 / 2:48 pm

    Soooo with you on the courtesy wave. We shop at Sam's for things like toothpaste, tp, paper towels, etc. It's cheaper & it's rare that we run out. I have a TON of shampoo & conditioner too.

  12. Sydnee
    July 20, 2017 / 2:53 pm

    That's what a membership to Costco does, overbuy, overbuy, overbuy! Beware…

  13. Candice McCarthy
    July 20, 2017 / 2:54 pm

    I 100% agree with your courtesy wave statement! I wait until I'm fully in front of a car to wave so I'm sure they see me. I curse more about people who don't thank me than I do about people who cut me off.Side note, these might be one of my favorite new post series that you do. 🙂

  14. Emma Charlotte
    July 20, 2017 / 2:57 pm

    All guidelines are perfect that can make a person able to know all about buying guidelines to have perfect things at all.Emma Charlotte |

  15. Alex K
    July 20, 2017 / 3:20 pm

    Yes! Where is the courtesy wave!? Or any courtesy on the road. This morning on my drive to work I was cut off, flicked off and yelled at on three separate occasions for NOTHING! So frustrating!

  16. Kathleen
    July 20, 2017 / 3:24 pm

    I am big on the wave. My kids have been taught to over wave too. It is just polite. The other day, the elevator door opened and the peopleBARGED in before we had even gotten out. I was soooo annoyed. Yes, I overbuy. We have back ups for everything. I come from a long line of overbuyers! I am way older than you…. I have to write it all down!!!

  17. Danielle
    July 20, 2017 / 4:06 pm

    #2017courtesywavemovement is something that needs to happen! I live in a very small town in rural Utah and I wave people through all the time at stop signs and crosswalks. Most of the time, it's because I'm not in a hurry and when someone waves and smiles back, I feel really good about myself. But then there's two people at a stop sign waving each other through, both equally nice and equally not in any hurry, but also both NOT moving, then move at the same time. LOL! That always makes me laugh.

  18. Lindsay at Lindsay'sSweetWorld
    July 20, 2017 / 4:18 pm

    I am the EXACT opposite of an underbuyer. I go crazy buying all the things and storing them for the future. I HATE going to the store, so I figure, if I just stockpile everything I won't need to go as often. And don't get me wrong, I'm no hoarder by any means, but I have been known to go to TJ's and buy two cases of $3 buck Chuck in one trip. Or to Sam's to buy four massive bottles of contact solution. Lol.

  19. Owen Davis @ Davis Duo
    July 20, 2017 / 4:58 pm

    I am totally an over-buyer. I have this ridiculous irrational fear of running out of products (as if that's something to worry about) so I have about 3 new deodorants, 5 toothbrushes, 4 hairsprays, etc all under my bathroom sink

  20. Sara
    July 20, 2017 / 5:37 pm

    i've decided that my brain fog is permanent until my kids leave for college. I think it's mostly from multi-tasking and too much on the "to do" list. It makes us lose our minds!

  21. Sarah C.
    July 20, 2017 / 6:04 pm

    #2017courtesywavemovement all the way! I get so mad when I let someone in front of me on the road and they don't acknowledge it! Also…I'm a serious under-buyer. Then I never know what we need because I'm not good at inventorying before going to the store!

  22. Eloquently Emily
    July 20, 2017 / 11:38 pm

    I am a huge fan of the courtesy wave and it annoys me more then anything when people don't wave! It annoys me even more when I hold the door open for people or say thank you or your welcome and people just don't respond… rude. And I am with you on being forgetful- I am forever setting my keys down in stores and then having to wonder around and figure out where I put them down. Hope you are having a good week love!-Emily

  23. Elizabeth | Carolina Mrs.
    July 21, 2017 / 12:55 am

    I suffer from serious brain fog, too. It definitely comes from being a mom. Going to check out that article for some tips. I struggle with the balance of over buying and underbuying. I think I have 30 rolls of paper towels right now (maybe because of brain fog?) because I accidentally bought paper towels instead of toilet paper at Costco. Yet I'm down to about four more pumps of dish soap.Right there with you on bringing back the courtesy way, and just courtesy in general.

  24. nikki
    July 21, 2017 / 1:00 am

    I definitely agree on the courtesy wave! Also my question is… are they all the same shampoo or do you ever buy different ones??!

  25. Brittney
    July 21, 2017 / 2:08 am

    I'm an underbuyer too but doing the Amazon monthly shipment has saved me so many times! I order all of my necessities over there and you can even set the ship dates for once every three months (or longer)!

  26. Amy
    July 21, 2017 / 11:11 am

    My 5 year old even does the courtesy wave when we are on our walks!!

  27. East Coast Chic {Natalie}
    July 21, 2017 / 9:05 pm

    I always do the courtesy wave but NO ONE else does anymore!! It drives me bonkers! My mom was a total under buyer and I felt like we were always out of everything growing up so now I'm a total over buyer and always, always, always have at least 2-3 back ups of everything. I do Amazon subscribe and save which makes it completely brainless and easy to do!

  28. Laura at Fantastically Four
    July 23, 2017 / 12:04 pm

    Of course, I'm completely with you on brain fog! Thanks so much for linking to me. I still do the courtesy wave! Oh, and my husband is the bulk buyer in our family. I, too, buy one toothpaste tube at a time. I guess I like as many trips to the grocery store as possible?! Yikes. 😀

  29. Caley-Jade Rosenberg
    July 23, 2017 / 2:00 pm

    Firstly, I wish we were having REAL coffee together!I have somehow managed to escape the brain fog, thankfully!I am not an under-buyer or over-buyer, I am a just-right-buyer… But maybe it's down to a really good memory, I know exactly what is finishing or needs buying and I like to have one of everything stored away, in a place that I know to look… Funny story about this – once my husband went to make us tea and there was only one of his tea bags left, he went to the pantry to get more and there weren't any – he was horrified! We laughed about he "Assumed" that the tea tree grew new tea bags in the pantry because we never run out! Haha, guess who does the grocery shopping in our house?x

  30. sara [at] journey of doing
    July 30, 2017 / 1:09 am

    I'm an under buyer. My husband is an over buyer. This makes me even more of an under buyer. This is a vicious circle. LOL I feel you on the brain fog… I wish I had a fix. I've been in one for a couple months though. And I ALWAYS courtesy wave. 😉

  31. rox
    July 30, 2017 / 2:21 am

    I am usually an over-buyer. I'd MUCH rather have extra bags of cotton balls and tubes of toothpaste than run out and not have backup(S). We have a large walk-in closet and nice under-the-counter storage, so that's where all of it goes – out of sight, but there when we need it!!! And I am SO WITH YOU with the brain fog. I haven't worked in about 10 months, and I start back this week. EEEEEK! Gotta get my brain back to functioning properly…if it ever was… :/

  32. rox
    July 30, 2017 / 2:22 am

    OH! The courtesy wave! I am ALL about it. I wave a few times, actually – like when I'm going in front of the person, and when I finally get in front of them, I will wave to them in my rearview mirror. #southernbythegraceofgod

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