Coffee Talk

If we were having coffee (& Oreos) I’d love to chat about a recent life lesson I learned…

Scheduling time to worry. If you’re a worrier like me then you should try this strategy I recently learned about to free up your mental space from worry. I know it seems like an incredibly strange concept to schedule time to worry but it’s been tremendously constructive to me and to others I’ve shared this with. I can easily be up in the middle of the night worrying about big things like weathering our first holiday without dad to small things like asking for time out of the office for appointments or vacation in the far future. So for worries that aren’t on the immediate horizon, I tell myself that I’ll worry about them when the events are closer to occurring and set a timeframe like the month or week before the event. It’s sort of the “we’ll cross that bridge when we get there” mentality.

The other type of worry I struggle with is when my plate is overflowing with many things happening at once. For example, I recently had a terribly busy week of work travel but also needed to squeeze into my schedule bringing a meal to a new mom, dropping my car off at the shop for some urgent repairs, completing and mailing tons of paperwork, a doctor appointment and the list goes on. I can overwhelm myself worrying all day about how and when I can possibly accomplish everything. To tackle this type of worry I have to carve out specific time to productively think through and plan for all of the things that need to be done. So instead of worrying all the time, I schedule and limit my worries to my drive to work or with a glass of wine in the tub.

Got any worrier tips? Leave them in the comments!

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  1. Jessica Reisfelt
    October 10, 2017 / 10:08 am

    That's a great idea. When I get into a cycle of worry and stress, I use a guided meditation app on my phone by Gaiam. It's a lot cheaper than other ones I've seen (just one $2.99 fee) They have specific meditations for moods and for specific groups of people (like moms!) and it's been really helpful at quieting my mind and helping me to relax when my tendency is to stay up half the night worrying about things.

  2. Owen Davis @ Davis Duo
    October 10, 2017 / 11:14 am

    Great idea! I am a worrier at heart unfortunately and I'd love if I could limit my worrying to a set time… going to try this!

  3. Tess
    October 10, 2017 / 12:02 pm

    Honestly – therapy! It is a scheduled time to work through my anxious mind and it really really realllllllly helps to have an expert weigh in, offer realllllly important perspectives and help me build better skill sets. I couldn't recommend finding a good therapist more!

  4. Lindsey Williams
    October 10, 2017 / 12:09 pm

    I follow a mantra…well I repeat it, at least, until it sticks; "interrupt anxiety with Gratitude." I quite literally list the positive, happy things I'm grateful for and interupt the negative thoughts…stop them in their tracks. Your mind can only make one list at a time (might as well let it reel through a grateful one!). I Also love…"fear arises when we imagine that everything depends on us…" Repeat, repeat & believe.

  5. Caley-Jade Rosenberg
    October 10, 2017 / 1:28 pm

    This is a genius idea, and something I would never have considered. Sending you prayers through your times of worry special friend (and lots of oreos too!) x

  6. Kelly
    October 10, 2017 / 1:35 pm

    I love this! It definitely helps me to write things down and just knock out several hard things first thing in the morning (or the first chance I possibly get) to relieve the most anxiety. Right now is definitely a season of much at once, so I've been crippled with anxiety for weeks. Ready to get things moving and crossed off the list!

  7. Sara
    October 10, 2017 / 5:35 pm

    The best thing I've learned over the years is to grant myself grace. I cannot do everything. I cannot be everywhere. I cannot please everyone.

  8. Gregory Davis
    October 10, 2017 / 7:57 pm

    Thank you for sharing.

  9. Susan
    October 10, 2017 / 8:20 pm

    This is a unique idea – thank you for sharing and can’t wait to try this! Xoxoxoxoxox

  10. Laura Darling
    October 11, 2017 / 11:49 am

    I do the same thing! When I find myself worrying about something, I will look at the clock and say to myself, you have five minutes to worry. Then I think through it all and when the five minutes is up, I move on. It usually works for me!

  11. janeey
    October 11, 2017 / 2:37 pm


  12. Hanging with the Hirsts
    October 11, 2017 / 4:55 pm

    Usually when I get worried, especially when things pile up at work, I take a deep breath, make a list in priority of things that need to get done and pray. It works every time πŸ™‚

  13. Cathy
    October 12, 2017 / 8:43 pm

    Dealing with some sneaky postpartum anxiety right now (sneaky because it's popping up four months postpartum instead of immediately, like it did the first time). Finally reached out to my OB yesterday, but in the meantime, I'm gonna try this idea! And chocolate.

  14. sara [at] journey of doing
    October 22, 2017 / 2:20 am

    I've been trying to mediate. I have a code for a free month of headspace if you want to try it. I've been doing it for a little over a month and it's helped a little. I'm learning, at least… and I definitely feel like I've been able to take my anxiety level down. Happy to share if you want it. πŸ™‚

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